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You’re looking for love, but your email box is stuffed with messages from posers and players, you’ve had your fill of happy hour at the local watering hole, and your coworkers would only be suitable dating material if the world were ending at midnight. Family and friends just don’t get it! It might be time to try a professional matchmaker or matchmaking service.
Is a Matchmaker Right for You?
If these key points apply to you, a matchmaker could be a worthwhile investment:
- You’ve been there, done that, and are not just out for an exciting hunt.
- You’re definitely ready to snuggle down with the perfect partner for life.
- Spending a fair bit of money for a good professional matchmaker won’t hurt your finances.
- You’ve tried the usual places to connect with a partner, and that’s not for you – you may want to meet more elite singles.
- You can be relaxed and open with the right professional adviser who has experience and people skills.
Ethical, experienced matchmakers spend a lot of time getting to know their clients and putting the right people together. We’re not talking about sending out perfunctory videos and saying, “Pick your next date from one of these.” Real matchmakers know how chemistry works, what key issues make people compatible, and what personal characteristics define potential harmony. Professional matchmakers also study societal trends and know where the action is, and what is realistically do-able.
For example, you might think more mature people, say post-45-year-olds, can’t find a great partner because our society tends to worship youth. Not so. There are matchmakers who specialize in working with established adults, and they understand that Rob Blagojevich hair isn’t important and Lady Gaga pizazz loses its appeal in the real world. However, at perfect partners we do understand our Young heart’s Club, who are members setting out for the first time to find permanent and lasting relationship, where core values on both sides are a necessary building block.
Successful and professional matchmakers are skilled at understanding their clients’ needs and filling them. They get that people come in all shapes and sizes. They know that outstanding character and emotional stability can outrank flash and glitz. Successful relationships are born of honest communication and representation, and they survive on the same fuel.
How to Approach Matchmaking Safely
Are you a loser if you need a matchmaker? Not at all. Matchmaking has been a thriving business for thousands of years. In fact, only in modern times have we decided to leave the pairing up of lovers to fate or chance. Some of the most successful marriages around have resulted from matchmaking, but most such couples won’t announce their secret.
It’s possible that busy single people trying to raise children, develop a career or make important life transitions aren’t equipped to find the right partner. If a couple is good, the Earth can move, and life is amazing. If a couple is wrong together, nothing else works, and solutions can be most stressful. Sometimes, outside facilitation clears the fog so that real progress can be made. We’ve learned to trust professionals to work on our cars, arrange our parties and celebrations, even do our shopping. There’s little reason not to explore professional assistance with a most important issue, our emotional satisfaction…..the search for a personal partner. This is even worse on dating sites where singles often just sign-up for fun and games ….or some very dark motives.
Be forewarned that matchmaking, like coaching, is neither licensed nor regulated in most places. You or I could hang a shingle tomorrow and start a new, supposedly lucrative career hooking up lonely people who don’t have the time, or maybe the confidence, to get together on their own. So, proceed with caution! Do your homework and get to know who the matchmakers out there are, and choose well, preferably a hands-on service who is big on communicating with their members (and charge for their time, otherwise you are getting bargain-basement level service – time is money) and have some degree of psychology and accreditation as coaches, and a good track record – even honesty hurts sometimes, it is all for a constructive purpose……success!
The contract should spell out both your obligations and theirs. It will specify a definition of services provided and not provided, a time period and the complete fees.
Investigate the firm on the Internet, looking for reviews and comments, and do it thoroughly. Just as you would if you were looking for a psychic adviser or a therapist, pay attention to detail and make sure you interview the person who will be handling your account. If you are not personally compatible, the chance of a successful match is limited.
Rick (Admin Manager) – Perfect Partners Team