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Alpha women are here to stay, men need new strategies!

Hi Shannon,


I’d love to meet a woman that can debate against me, and win, with facts and proof. I don’t consider these woman alpha in any way. They are simply intelligent, sane, humans, that have grown as tired as I am with the BS. IF YOU HAVE THESE ON YOUR DATABASE, PLEASE INTRODUCE ME, I AM ONE HELLOVA CATCH!!

A woman being straight up with me? Does such a thing exist? Are you sure your database has not been invaded with aliens? This could be part of their master plan you know, they could be trying to get all the able, intelligent men off the planet, so they can invade!

Yes, I know this sounds ridiculous, but from my experience, both these scenarios have equal merit. To me, finding a woman that’s straight up with me, would be like opening my microwave and finding a sentient cockroach holding a sign saying: “We come in peace.”. It really just sounds … too far-fetched to believe.

It would be lovely though, to meet a lady that does EXACTLY what she says she’s going to do. Rather than another one that talks in circles about what they would like to do, but somehow always finds excuses not to put effort into it.

As for her not being easy? I think if any of the men on your system wanted easy, they wouldn’t be on your system. Easy is really, really  easy. Too damn easy actually.

From my perspective, the woman you are describing here is … my mother’s generation, WHEN WOMEN WERE WOMEN, and they were strong too! They just don’t come in that make and model any more.

Basically what I’m saying is, that I need proof that these creatures exists. Right now, for me, this is up there with X-Files, Big-Foot, The Yeti, finding the body of J. E. Hoover and who killed JFK.



Once again, happy Friday to all our awesome perfect partners, the last one in November, as we head into December!  This week’s bulletin is on an interesting piece we researched on the internet on Alpha Females, we have to get used to it, they are here to stay guys! We had a very interesting response to our bulletin last week, many guys came back applauding what DJB had asked in his email to us, and many ladies were not surprised to hear what men are thinking about single ladies in general, and some were not very impressed!!  I cannot insert all the answers here as it will be too long, but some of the best should be on our blog on our website, anonymous as usual, no names, as confidentiality rules!  We so appreciate your feedback, and it seems many single ladies and guys have some thinking to do!  We have blogged an email from another male member, who says his experience with us is always fantastic, that we have truly wonderful, strong and independent ladies he has met and is honoured to meet, that are not the needy or clinging vine types, and he suggests our last week’s author meet more of the Alpha female types to find what him and his friends seek, partners in life not passengers  – very interesting! My question is, would Alpha Females be attracted to these guys? We applaud and complement our lovely ladies!

Indeed, stereotypical roles between the genders have changed in the last decade, more than ever, and there are no ‘privileges’ due by sheer virtue of being male, or female, successful, more mature or whatever people thinks gives them a head start or an automatic leg-up, because they are entitled…..singles now have to step up and attract on merit, their value add as a partner, their heart intelligence, divine spirit …….and their awareness of Self, both in and out, as essential human beings. BUT, we never forget the true essence of lasting and meaningful love bonds, men love to love women, and women love to love men, so it can be quite simple when all the games, riches, glory, lures and subterfuge are out the way, just be real, leave Ego behind!!

We are going to be sending out as many intros as we can before 23rd December so everyone has some new socialising to look forward to over the holidays, we will pull out all the stops! We are hard pressed to also bring on board all newbies as much admin has to be done and photos taken, so please hang in there, we are really busy!  We are also sifting through our usual 1000+ enquiries every month, and sadly, having to reject at least 30% as they do not meet all entry criteria at PP, so please be assured we remain selective and astute to your needs, and only entertain those that we feel fit in with our general calibre. All our partners have something to offer, are unique and fabulous people, give everyone a chance!

Veronica has been enrolling many members interested in her ‘energy psychology’ workshops aimed specifically at singles and her short workshop is next Saturday, 3rd December, for those still wanting to attend, or engage one-on-one  (feedback has been she can change dynamics in just one chat and members are beyond impressed!) and she did a great job of the Cliff Central radio show, we have written three articles for leading women’s magazines, and one men’s magazine, so editors recognise our value add too, and are helping spread the news! There have been no further TV shows planned this year, but we are out there, for all of us, and you are our best ambassadors, matched yet or not! Remember also, your frog could be someone else’s prince or princess! YOUR attraction factor is your success ….and an open mind to meet everyone and give it a chance……nobody is in a static state, transformation starts to happens the minute there is a spark!

Much love and light until next time,

Fond Regards

Some men like their women submissive, sweet, feminine, and nurturing – and hey, there’s nothing wrong with that. But that woman is certainly not an Alpha female! The Alpha female is now part of the mix and growing in numbers guys, you need to take heed! (Shannon’s comment:  it does not mean compete on a masculine level, ever, and definitely not an invitation to be butch in attitude! The Feminine Goddess can risk being the gentle, kind, soft and loving nurturer more than ever as she has more resources and means too to do so!  She can shine with new confidence and give her gifts from the heart).

Now, for those Alpha Females out there, you know who you are, it takes a very particular type of man to know or handle you, he would not be threatened but rather support and encourage your endeavors, seeing you as his mirror reflection and it may not always be easy. Yes, you might as well admit it now too: you are a handful.

Potential Alpha Female Lovers: don’t say you weren’t warned. You best know your woman before you fall head over heels for Miss. Independent!

  1. She will challenge you.

Not only will she challenge you, but she probably won’t forfeit too easily; she will be persistent and insistent. She will debate with you over anything from Trumps’s new policy, to the actual color of a tennis ball (green? or yellow?), and she expects to win. Some advice: challenge her back.(You asked for mental stimulation after all!!but do not turn it into a battle of egos! Always graciously accept her opinions and respect them, they are not meant to demean you in any way unless you let it!). If she has her feminine goddess working for her, she will be entertaining and interesting, not annoyingly disrespectful of your opinions either……so ladies, work on this!

  1. She doesn’t need a man to make it happen.

If you’re the kind of guy who loves to feel needed all the time, this gal just isn’t for you. She is fiercely independent and prides herself on being self-reliant and self-sufficient: Miss Outta My Way. The great thing about being with an Alpha is that you won’t feel tied down because she doesn’t need you, she wants you….she loves being with you, and you complement each other, not complete each other!

  1. She will be straight-up with you.

If your Alpha has a problem, you will most likely know about it. You can’t expect her to be too gentle with her words, so hopefully you’ll understand that she isn’t trying to be mean – this is just the way she is. But, hey, you won’t need to deal with the typical passive-aggressive bullshit that most girls pull! She gets to the point and does not play games, and if she is a nice Alpha, she can still be kind in her choice of approach and words.

  1. She’s a do-er, not a talk-er.

Alpha’s take action, so if she says she’s gonna do something – you bet your butt, she’s gonna do it. She probably expects the same in return: if you say you’re gonna do something, you sure as hell better follow through. And if ya don’t, she will…so don’t miss the boat, Mister. Hop on!

  1. She doesn’t wear her Alpha on her sleeve if she is smart.

Chocolates? Flowers? One of those Hallmark cards that have a cute pun about how much you love her? Yeah, these things will probably make her vom a little in her mouth before it makes her heart melt. Not that she’s a total cynic, but she’s used to the doting – the lovey dovey stuff that every girl wants – and in order to get her attention, you’ll need to come up with something a little more original…..but start somewhere, women love to be courted

  1. She’s not easy.

If you think loving an Alpha Female is easy, you’re wrong. She’s difficult, competitive, and probably complicated. She gets off from being free, being in power, and will step on any man who gets in her way. She is, in fact, Ab. So. Lute. Ly. Impossible.  You need to also draw your line in the sand, you have needs too, and she needs to know it, gently put!

  1. But she’s definitely worth it.

Her my-way-or-the-highway attitude and complete self-competence will, at times, make you feel small. Instead, let it empower you. Let it strengthen your weaknesses, and let it feed your drive to success. She will help you learn about yourself; she will push you; she will change you; she will impact you. Overall, she will make you a better man….and you will make a better team!

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Looking for that special lady that you can relate to at all levels

Hi Shannon, your weekly article and email refers from Friday!

Only got to read the mail below this morning, I guess rather late than never. Very very interesting. Lets first start on the short article and will comment on the letter afterwards.

–          As a man, speaking for myself and those in my circle (most of them married already), we always say look for that first prize lady, not because of the looks which can be deceiving at times. We looking for that special lady that you can relate to at all levels, or well most. Someone you can talk to about everything and anything and not feel judged, ranging from your inner personal self, your interests, challenges, views about the future, etc. Basically, that someone you can share you frustrations and celebrations with and enjoy life together. Someone who shares same or similar vision about the future. Those are basics. As independent lady, she should however allow you to be a man in her life. Simply put, someone who will allow me to bring the best out of them and vise versa.

On the letter below, I sense that this guys could be associating with those less independent ladies who will want the guy to only spend and spend and spend. I have realized that, especially with the ladies I have met on Perfect Partners, mostly they are at a point in their lifes where they have worked hard for their independence and just looking for someone to bring love into joy into their lifes. With such ladies, you will always find that they are genuine about their expectations and will not even give a sense of being after your money or material possession. They just looking for a man to play a manly role in their lives and make them feel protected and loved. These guys could possibly be hanging out with wrong ladies (maybe meeting on internet or Tinder?) or possibly scared of the challenge of being with successful and independent women. There are plenty of good women out there, they must never lose hope.

Many thanks and regards, your member who is an Alpha male and love Alpha females!


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Ladies, your appearance is a big factor in what a man perceives as a healthy partner.

Hi Shanon,

I’m also now mentioning things that many men worry about, so please help!

Ladies, your appearance is a big factor in what a man perceives as a healthy partner. If you are too skinny, or to round, it’s time to address this. Either see a nutritionist to work out a proper diet, or hit that gym equipment to say goodbye to the KitKat and Nick-Naks you’ve loved a bit too much.

Remember, men are visual creatures. Just! Like! You! First impressions matter. If you look unhealthy, the man of your dreams will find someone else to look at. We can coddle each other as much as we like, at some point though, we must face reality. Love is born in knowing a person, and knowing a person, starts with seeing them.

The hunting in packs:

Don’t try to find Mister Right in a pub, that’s where Mister Right-Now hangs out. Mister Right on the other hand, you’ll find him busy with something constructive, or relaxing with a friend or two. Mister Right does not hunt in packs, neither should you! Mister Right, respects the boundaries of ladies night. If you hunt in a pack, he will leave you alone. To him, it looks like ladies night.

Am I ready to share my home and sacred space 24/7/365?

The simple answer is: I … Don’t … Know.

Allow me to explain:

When I get home from work, I park my car in the garage, get out and close the garage. By the time I’m done, my cat is around my feet begging for attention. I ignore him, because I’m checking the post box.

He starts mewing as I unlock the gate, turn and lock it again after entering. Then I get to the security gate on my front door. I unlock it and the door, then scratch his head before opening the door. He’s happy to see me, and he likes the fact that I’m home.

He runs inside before I do, impatient for me to put my stuff down and pick him up. I do that, scratch his head again as I smile and put him down. Knowing he’s going to be around my feet, I walk over to the fridge, open the door and get the milk.  After twisting off the cap, I drink without worry, directly from the bottle. Then I fill his little bowl from it, scratch his head again and let him get on with the job of drinking his portion.

Then I pick a pipe from my meager collection, after returning the now capped milk to the fridge, and fill the pipe with the cherry tobacco I like so much. I light it just inside the front door, puffing carefully to get a proper ember going, then I tap it down and take that glorious step on to my porch, looking directly at the Paarl Mountain range. My cat joins me there, sitting on the steps doing what cats do, while I pace around contemplating life, the universe and everything, calmly puffing on my pipe. Nobody moaning at me!

In that instant, a single word is all I need to describe what I have: “Peace!”

When I think about a woman in that picture, I have almost no ability to see her doing anything other than immediately accosting me for being late, not using a glass, or not lighting my pipe outside. Nor do I see her keeping her berating gob shut for the few minutes I need to realize that I’m home, and can leave the office day behind. I don’t see her being anything other than derogatory about any number of things she imagines I’ve done wrong in the last 24 hours, nor do I see her taking any time to use her brain and show a bit of kindness, by pouring me a bloody glass of milk. I don’t see her helping me with the shopping I just did, or even having the simple decency to open the damn door.

I mean, it’s not as if my car runs in silent mode. You can hear it when I pull in.

So … No, I really don’t think I’m ready, and the sad thing is, I no longer care. At least I still care that I don’t care, but I don’t know how much longer I’ll hold on to that either.

The reality is, I’ve seemingly lost the ability to think of a woman, as anything other than a money hungry leech, with no purpose other than to take what she can and bail at the first sign of trouble.

The shockingly sad thing though, is that the last decade has done nothing other than prove that perception, especially now that I know I’m not the only man with this problem.


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Success story and a wedding in December 2016, single to soulmate!!

Hi dear RP and CM, (and all the ‘family’!)

How wonderful to hear from you!! How time flies!! It is hard to believe CM and the three kitties are already fully installed – for keeps! What a fabulous journey it has been …..and I even think many ladies could be envious that RP was very sincere about moving heaven and earth to get his South African beauty, and it has happened, and I can ‘hear’ you are very much in love! CM will morph into a great USA citizen, with her sense of adventure and faith intact! And living in Maine – could not be more perfect!

I and the PP Team here wish you the most awesome of weddings on 10th December, we wish we could be there!! PLEASE send us photos! We are extremely fond of you and loved working with and for you – it has been a fabulous success story and will always be a very warm memory!

Big hugs to CM, she is brilliant!! What a brave lady ……and a big kiss on the cheek from me dear RP, you are an extra- ordinary man! You knew your Ms. Right from day one!

Much love and light for always,

Fond Regards

Dear all, and especially our wonderful Matchmakers, Perfect Partners!

For 23 years, I lived alone in various parts of the world includng my 2013 move to mid-coast Maine. Now there are 7 living beings here in Harpswell, Maine, USA with 2 more on the way. My journey with Perfect partners was fabulous as I met stunning ladies…..and then my dream came true!

The major addition was CM’s arrival in Boston from 10,000 miles away (JHB, SA) on Tuesday. The next night her 3 cats, Charlie, Roxy, and Lily arrived the after a 7 hour drive up here from JFK. Of course my adorable and extremely gentle bulldogs Yale and Kennedy have been now with me over a year. All is smooth so far, fingers crossed

CM’s own very small dog Picasso will join us in the middle of next year, and her almost 18 year old son will be here for South African school holidays. He will arrive before the wedding and stay until almost New Years.

Again we are both so happy at what seems to be a large positive response as to attending our Saturday Dec 10th wedding at UCONN. Also if any of you know a good photographer with a real camera, we may have a need for that.

Please be in touch any time you wish.

We send our warmest to each of you,
CM and RP

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