3 Reasons you are still single – advice from our Matchmaker!

May 3, 2014 | Dating Tips

“Your Team here at Perfect Partners wish to thank you once more for making contact with us within the past few months, and we are sorry you have not yet joined, we just want to let you know we are thinking of you!

Many of you may have found your soul mate on your own by now, but many of you are still in the dead zone of a fruitless search, wondering if love will ever find you! Fact is, whilst we go about our daily business, the usual treadmill of busy, busy, busy, life is passing us by! If you want transformation you need to actively take action and push any self-limiting beliefs behind you –  why will destiny pass you by if you actively manifest a positive future? Only if you do not change that which you are doing that is not working for you, you will stay stuck in a time warp, guaranteed!  Are you still not meeting the “right” people? Is your enthusiasm curbed by all the games out there?  Don’t know where to start? We have answers for you but it means embarking on this journey together.

Welcome change, be brave, be daring and have a plan of action!  Your PPI Team have a plan for you and you stand as good a chance as any out there!

It may be fear of the unknown or lack of self-confidence, but rest assured we are experts at getting you started again! We have transformed many lives for the better (and many engagements/weddings between June 2012 and now)  and we believe destiny awaits us all when we take that action.  Please read the inspirational article below and seriously think of a new life! Don’t be afraid to discuss your budget with us we are very flexible as we are NOT about money, but a valued service (and yes, it does cost)

by S.K. Smith

Being single can be sensational when it’s what you want. If, on the other hand, you’re in the market to meet someone special and it just doesn’t seem to be happening, flying solo can seem like a curse. For those of you in the second camp (all alone and ready for a real relationship), it’s easy to blame your circumstances. You may tell yourself there’s no one worthy in your area or that all the good ones are taken. The truth, however, is that the problem may just be you.

Before you go raising your arms in defence, spouting about what a great catch you think you are, let down your guard and ask yourself if any of the following sound familiar. After all, you may actually be the catch of the century, but what does that matter if nobody else gets to know it? You need to be actively “marketed” to like-minded Singles out there because, they like you, are busy with life and don’t know you exist!


You Project Being Too Together

Everyone wants to put their best foot forward, sure but there’s a difference between being your best you and making yourself seem so together (read: set in your ways) that you don’t need — or have room for — anyone in your life. What you may consider your strengths might just be signals that you’re fine just as you are. As a result, prospective partners might believe that they should keep on walking, since odds are they won’t measure up to your standards. Sound familiar? Is your schedule is so rigid that you can’t bend it to accommodate a date? Is your checklist so precise that you turn partners away for the wrong hair color or shoes? Your vision of exactly how things should be might just be getting in the way of how they could be. We all live for today…..but where do you picture yourself in 5, 10 or 15 years time?  Will those criteria you have today be at all important when the chips are down and you need true loving support from the right person, instead of designer labels?  How do you view sexuality?  Is it purely a mechanism to test your popularity, feed your ego, or a deep seated need as part of the gift of true lasting love?  Time takes its toll on all of us!  Therefore it is logical to get into a sound relationship while you still have something to offer, and life to live and enjoy together NOW! FACT!


You Project Incomplete

On the opposite end of the spectrum are those of us who have spent our lives preparing for the perfect mate. Trouble is, what you see as preparing may seem to others like waiting – Translation: you’ve put yourself on hold in hopes of finding someone to complete you. The trouble with that mentality is that a great partner will enhance your life, but they can’t complete you – only you can do that for yourself.  Good prospects are under your nose but the “greener grass on the other side syndrome still persists!  These are subconscious barriers you are putting up that reads as “NOT AVAILABLE….or NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR ME! or maybe you undervalue yourself “I AM NOT WORTHY – WHO WOULD WANT ME?

And until you do realise you stand as good a chance as any, you may continue to scare off otherwise great matches who perceive you as desperate and/or don’t want the pressure your choices imply (marry me now!). So, if you’re still living at home well out of your twenties with a hope chest of housewares in the basement for when you meet ‘the one,’ it’s time to consider getting on with it already. The more risks you take for yourself and your own good, the greater rewards you’ll reap in love and in life.  Step out of your comfort zone!


You Actually Want to Be Single says Matchmacker

Lastly, you may be out every Friday, on three different dating sites and putting the word out to your friends that you’re open to (nay, eager for) fix-ups, but believe it or not, there’s a good chance that you actually like your life just as it is. Clues that this is the case? Choosing people you know in your gut aren’t for you to go out with anyway — just to ‘kill time,’ and then rejecting other potential quality dates for reasons unknown — even to yourself. Doing a runner when commitment talk happens, and simply not prepared to share you space with another!  Love them and leave them – with no emotional involvement other the physical? Perhaps you have a “little something on the side” which is sufficient for your needs? Perhaps you are settling for second best on purpose because that is what you want? A frustrating but pleasant enough liaison, an affair, friends with benefits? Ask yourself how long this can last? Isn’t there something with real value out there for you?

It’s ok if you want to be single, but if you don’t (and you’re acting like this), take a second and ask yourself what’s really going on. Fear (of being hurt, of being vulnerable, of commitment of anything) can seem overwhelming, but only by facing yours will you have any chance of finding happiness with someone else.

Do YOU fit into any of the above?  Do you recognise your current situation or mindset? Please know that with our guidance any of these three syndromes can be rectified!


Rick (Admin Manager) – Perfect Partners Team