Matchmaker is also a Date Coach
Shannon, our Matchmaker, is also a Date Coach with hands-on experience along the pathway to finding love – especially on getting started again if eligible Singles are rusty or are just not having much luck on the online dating sites available. Since the beginning of time, humans have had a deep-seated need for social connection and intimacy, which is often fulfilled through romantic love. Studies have shown that strong social connections can positively impact health and well-being. In contrast, social isolation can negatively affect physical and mental health and even increase mortality risk.
Humans are also complex Beings with neuropathways, chemical composition, and even vibrational energy called an “electro-magnetic” field. The human body relies on a network of neural highways that trigger electrical impulses, fueled by chemistry and imprinting of the brain, and more. One reason why the desire for love may be stronger than the desire for food is the release of chemicals such as dopamine and oxytocin in the brain when we experience love. These chemicals are associated with pleasure and reward, like how food activates the reward system in the brain. The release of these chemicals can create a sense of euphoria, making us crave love more than food.
Training our Hearts to Love again
Yes!! Weird as that may sound, it is a fact that the seat of our “feelings” lies in our hearts, not our brains. We need to awaken our hearts to allow love in. When we have been “loveless” for a while, we may overthink things and close off our hearts – almost in fear of being vulnerable and getting hurt. We need to train those “love muscles”, starting with the heart. Additionally, love provides a sense of security and belonging, which is essential for our emotional well-being. As social animals, humans have evolved to rely on each other for survival. Love can provide a sense of belonging and security, especially during times of stress or uncertainty, and can give us a sense of purpose and meaning.
If you first receive constructive date coaching before you set out to date, and your coach is also your matchmaker, she will know you so well that by the time you are ready to mingle, you will be a pro at dating!! No need for tedious and soul-searching months of therapy!!
Furthermore, love can be a powerful motivator for personal growth and self-improvement. Being in a loving relationship can inspire us to be our best selves and achieve our goals. Love can also be a powerful source of inspiration, providing the motivation to overcome obstacles.
Feeling Love and not just “Thinking” Love.
Many Singles seeking a loving relationship overthink, design a blueprint, engineer and “construct” what they believe is love, only in mind, like a layout for an engineering project. That can be a useful guide to formulating a “dating plan” or strategy, but no love connection can be produced magically by the brain. We crave love because it is like hunger and is felt in our Being, and we can recognize it in the brain,” I am hungry”, but it does not feed the longing. It’s important to note that love and food are not mutually exclusive. They can both be craved at the same time and fulfil different needs. Food is essential for the survival of the body, while love is essential for the survival of the mind and soul. Food provides physical nourishment, while love provides emotional nourishment. Both are crucial for our overall well-being and survival.
Is there something wrong with my Dating?
In conclusion, many people rush off to a therapist because they secretly fear they may be unlovable or have some latent flaw that drives love away. The answer is simple enough – find the workable dating plan that suits YOUR needs, have self-confidence and self-love and talk to a date coach about applying your natural loving instincts.
Everyone is loveable to the RIGHT person. Everyone deserves love. The desire for love may be stronger than the desire for food for several reasons, and if you are serious enough, the blockages that may be self-sabotage can soon be things of the past. Humans have an emotional need for social connection and intimacy that is fulfilled through romantic love, feeling ‘approved’ and belonging. Love activates the reward system in the brain, releasing chemicals associated with pleasure and reward. Love also provides a sense of security and belonging, which is essential for emotional well-being. Love can be a powerful motivator for personal growth, self-improvement, and inspiration. Both love and food are important for our overall well-being and survival, and they are not mutually exclusive.
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