Shannon, our expert and reputable relationship and date coach, is often asked, “why is my dating style not working? I am told I am at least an 8/10 “package,” and I attract great guys. What is wrong?”. Shannon finds that especially with professional Singles, with a very well-developed sense of Self and maturity, IQ and EQ may be using a persona that does not quite a romantic aspect but is more “familiar and comfortable” in their career or corporate world. They are falling back on their deepest “confident” imprinting.
Why is Feminine Power Different in Dating?
Dating in your feminine divine involves tapping into your feminine energy and allowing yourself to be receptive, open, and vulnerable in your relationships. This can be the opposite of dating in your masculine divine where you risk “overselling” yourself, where you may be more assertive, driven, and focused on achieving your goals and even be a bit intimidating. Worse is when you appear dominant and even arrogant!! Here are some tips for dating in your feminine divine:
- Embrace your vulnerability. Allow yourself to be open and vulnerable in your relationships, and share your feelings, thoughts, and emotions with your partner. This can create a deeper connection and intimacy in the relationship.
- Practice self-care and self-love. Take care of yourself and prioritize your own well-being, both physically and emotionally. This can help you feel more confident and grounded in your relationships.
- Trust your intuition and emotions. Trust your intuition and emotions, and listen to what they are telling you about your relationships. This can help you make more authentic and aligned decisions in your dating life.
- Create a safe and supportive space. Create a safe and supportive space in your relationships, where you and your partner can be open and honest with each other without fear of judgment or criticism. This can help build trust and intimacy in the relationship.
- Be open to receiving love and support. Allow yourself to be open to receiving love and support from your partner, and let them show their care and affection for you. This can help you feel more connected and supported in the relationship.
Shannon has had many different reactions from Single Ladies – the most common being “Are you suggesting I dumb down?” Her answer is a straightforward NO!! “You need to feminine UP!! Starting with your appearance!! Is your hair short and masculine? Is your physical build more masculine? Do you wear more androgenous clothing like suits and boots? Do you appear to be “gender fluid”? Or do your celebrate your feminine aspects and traits and look like a desirable woman – rather than one of the boys??
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Overall, dating in your feminine divine involves embracing your vulnerability, practising self-care and self-love, trusting your intuition and emotions, creating a safe and supportive space, and being open to receiving love and support from your partner. By tapping into your feminine energy, you can build deeper and more fulfilling relationships in your dating life.
Dating in your feminine divine involves tapping into your feminine energy and qualities, such as receptivity, emotion, and intuition, to connect with a potential partner. This can be opposed to dating in your masculine divine, which involves using your masculine energy and qualities, such as assertiveness, logic, and rationality, to approach dating and relationships.
Dating in your feminine divine can involve being more open and vulnerable with potential partners and allowing yourself to be swept up in the excitement and passion of new love. This can involve listening to your heart and gut instincts and following your emotional and intuitive guidance in making decisions about the relationship.
We all have masculine/feminine traits
On the other hand, dating in your masculine divine can involve taking a more analytical and rational approach to dating and using logic and reasoning to make decisions about the relationship. This can involve setting boundaries and standards for the relationship and being more assertive and decisive in communicating your needs and wants.
Using Logic and Boundaries in Dating
Ultimately, the best approach to dating will depend on your individual preferences and values. Some people may feel more comfortable and authentic dating in their feminine divine, while others may find that dating in their masculine divine is more effective for them. It’s crucial to find a balance and integration of both energies and to be open and honest with potential partners about your needs and boundaries.
The feminine divine is associated with receptivity, emotion, and intuition. When dating in your feminine divine, you may feel more open and vulnerable with potential partners and be more willing to let yourself be swept up in the excitement and passion of new love. This can involve listening to your heart and gut instincts and following your emotional and intuitive guidance in making decisions about the relationship.
Dating in your feminine divine can also involve being more nurturing and caring towards your potential partner and more willing to support and encourage them in their goals and dreams. This can involve taking a more collaborative and supportive approach to the relationship and being more open to compromise and negotiation.
On the other hand, dating in your masculine divine involves using your masculine energy and qualities, such as assertiveness, logic, and rationality, to approach dating and relationships. This can involve being more decisive and assertive in communicating your needs and wants and setting boundaries and standards for the relationship.
Vulnerability and caution apply.
Dating in your masculine divine can also involve taking a more analytical and rational approach to dating. Using logic and reasoning to make decisions about the relationship means using your instinct and being cautious. This can involve being more critical and objective in evaluating potential partners and being more cautious and guarded in sharing your emotions and vulnerabilities.
Ultimately, the best approach to dating will depend on your individual preferences and values. Some people may feel more comfortable and authentic dating in their feminine divine, while others may find that dating in their masculine divine is more effective for them. It’s essential to find a balance and integration of both energies and to be open and honest with potential partners about your needs and boundaries.
Being Assertive in a Feminine Way
On the other hand, dating in your masculine divine involves connecting with your masculinity and allowing yourself to be assertive, confident, and decisive in your relationships. This can involve embracing your masculine qualities, such as your strength, determination, and leadership, and allowing yourself to be protective and decisive in your interactions with others. Men do love “strong and independent ladies” but not bullies, control freaks or self-important narcissists!!
Both the feminine and masculine divine are essential and necessary for a healthy and balanced relationship. By connecting with your feminine and masculine divine, you can create a dynamic, fulfilling relationship that allows both partners to grow and thrive.
The key to connecting with a new love prospect is knowing which of your traits will be most effective for the first encounter. Using an actual matchmaker (no bots or dating apps) who knows you and your potential new partner goes a long way to getting off to a good start, as your dating agency will give you a great and authentic showcase of the person you are choosing to explore!!
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