As a successful, caring and intuitive empath and date coach, Shannon is often dismayed at the number of eligible Singles who simply cannot find love – not because they are not loving or loveable or attractive, but because they often refuse to meet REAL men and women because they don’t meet their fantasy ideal of WHO that actually is!!
It begs logic when Single men and women say no to a good prospect because they are stuck on a fantasy vision or version of an avatar!! It is even less logical when a matchmaker is expected to find them a loving partner based on photos Singles send her, from movie stars to poster boys and girls or their favourite hero from a Marvel series!! And yes, Shannon has received many such photos. “I want to meet someone who looks like this!!!!!”. From “my best friend’s husband” to Spiderman and Lara Croft!! Is this truly possible – yes, sadly, it is. WTF??? Do they not live in a world populated by real humans??
When a Fantasy Lover is Escapism
The difference between a fantasy partner and the type of person you can attract in reality can be significant. A fantasy partner is an idealized version of a person, often based on societal expectations, media portrayals, and past experiences. It can involve creating an idealized version of a person with specific physical attributes, personality traits, values, lifestyle, and even profession that may be difficult to find in one person.
On the other hand, the type of person you can attract in reality is based on your own strengths, attitude, confidence, weaknesses, values, interests, and lifestyle. It’s important to be realistic about what you can offer in a relationship and to understand that attraction is a complex and nuanced process that can be influenced by various factors. Your matchmaker will promote all your strong traits and help you with those needing some work.
True Love is Hard Work – Not a Game
One of the main differences between a fantasy partner and what you can attract is that a fantasy partner is often based on unrealistic expectations and ideals. For example, you may imagine a partner who is perfect in every way, with no flaws or imperfections. However, in reality, no one is perfect, and everyone has their own flaws and imperfections. This can lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction when the relationship doesn’t meet your expectations.
Another difference is that a fantasy partner may be based on superficial qualities, such as physical appearance or material possessions, while what you can attract in reality is based on deeper qualities, such as values, interests, and compatibility. A fantasy partner may not be someone you have an emotional connection or a deep understanding. You may even be confusing lust with love.
Additionally, a fantasy partner may be based on a limited set of qualities, while what you can attract in reality can have a broader range of qualities. For example, you may focus on specific physical attributes in a fantasy partner. Still, in reality, you may find someone who is attractive for different reasons, such as their personality, sense of humour, or values.
Finding a compatible match with a Dating Agency
It’s important to remember that finding a partner is not only about physical attraction and shared interests but also about finding someone with similar values, goals, and aspirations. Sure, everyone wants the perfect sex life, but when it is superficial, it is often meaningless. If you are not sexually attractive, you may not be attracting anybody. It’s essential to be realistic about what you can offer in a relationship and open to compromise and growth. It’s also important to understand that attraction is not only based on physical appearance but also on how a person makes you feel and your connection with them.
Identify the non-negotiable qualities you look for in a partner, such as honesty, respect, and compassion. This can help you to be more realistic about who you are attracted to and what you can offer in a relationship. Your attraction factor may need work too!! Your matchmaker knows your dating fears and will help you relax and make new connections – to first explore who makes you feel happiest!! Love does not arrive out of the blue unless you physically engage face-to-face with good prospects…..and heed all ‘safe dating’ advice.
Another way to bridge the gap is to work on yourself and improve your own self-esteem and self-worth. When you have a healthy self-image, you will be more likely to attract someone who will treat you with the respect and love you deserve, and your dating agency will help you devise a relaxed dating plan. This excellent attractive profile attracts the RIGHT interest for you and will guide you through the early days of getting to know each other.
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